爸爸，在我的心目中，您是一个不懂的爱，不会表达爱，尤其是不懂得爱女儿的人。在我的记忆中，您没有送过我上下学，每天都是妈妈不辞辛苦的负责我上下学。在学校开展家长开放日或家长会里，一直都是妈妈的身影，您没有出现过一次。在我每年的生日时，都是妈妈给我准备礼物和生日蛋糕，而您只是轻描淡写的说小孩过什么生日。当我学习中遇到难题请您帮忙时，您只跟我解释题目的意思，从来不跟我说答案。

dad, in my mind, you are a person who doesn't understand love and can't express love, especially for his daughter. in my memory, you did not send me up and down school, every day my mother took the trouble to be responsible for my up and down school. in the school's parent open day or parent meeting, it's always the mother's figure, you haven't appeared once. on my birthday every year, my mother prepares gifts and birthday cakes for me, and you just understate the birthday of the child. when i meet a problem in my study, please help me, you only explain the meaning of the problem to me, never tell me the answer.

我对您的做法很不理解，别人的爸爸把自己的孩子含在嘴里怕化了，捧在手里怕摔了，您对我却毫不关心，对我只有严厉，叫我不管遇到什么难题都要自己想办法解决。

i don't understand your practice very much. other people's dads hold their children in their mouths for fear of melting and holding them in their hands for fear of falling. you don't care about me at all. you are only strict with me. you ask me to find a solution to any problem i encounter.

这几天您不在家，我跟妈妈谈心的时候，说到了您对我的关心不够。妈妈跟我解释了您的良苦用心。说您是想让我从小磨炼吃苦耐劳的精神，自理自立的能力，对待学习的要有责任感，让我学会自己的事情自己做，什么事不能依赖别人。

you are not at home these days. when i talked with my mother, i said that you didn't care enough for me. mom explained your hard work to me. you said that you want me to cultivate the spirit of hard work and self-reliance from childhood. you should have a sense of responsibility for learning, and let me learn how to do things by myself and what can't depend on others.

爸爸，我想我们还有好多办法进行沟通，不要老是用您那种家长式的方法来约束我。不过，通过妈妈把您对爱的一种方式的跟我这么解释。现在我终于懂了，您不是不爱我，您给我的是一种特殊的爱。

dad, i think we have many ways to communicate. don't always use your paternalistic way to restrain me. however, through your mother to love a way to explain to me. now i finally understand that you do not love me, you give me a special love.